Expert Advice: When To Bring Your Significant To Thanksgiving Dinner
Doctor Monica Mandell, a psychologist and relationship guru with Selective Search, a matchmaking company, gave some advice to couples who are visiting the parents.
It can be awkward when you are going to your in-laws' house for the first time. It can be stressful too to bring someone new to eat with your family. So a common question is: when do you take your significant other to meet your parents?
"If the relationship is such that you feel that it is moving forward, bring them to Thanksgiving," advised Dr. Mandell. "As long as you and your partner are on the same page and understand the meaning of the invitation, it is perfectly fine."
Dr. Mandell advised that it is definitely your family that you have to worry about more; therefore, you have to inform your family and explain why your significant other is coming. Be prepared to answer the generic question that every parent asks, the how you met, how long you've been dating, where you went to school, etc.
"Make the road smooth for yourself," Dr. Mandell suggested to the person being invited to the dinner. "Ask all of the right questions before you enter the dinner." Find out who is going to dinner, and what kind of dinner it is—whether casual or not.
And Dr. Mandell "absolutely" recommended bring a gift. Bring something homemade, bring flowers or bring stationery.
Subjects to stay away from:
Religion & Politics
PDA (public displays of affection): Don't even kiss in front of the family, advised Dr. Mandell.
Critiquing each other: "Do not be critical of each other, regardless of how comfortable you may be," said Dr. Mandell.
Commitment: Dr. Mandell emphasized to stay away from any talk to do with marriage
Personal information: it's not wise to tell your significant other too much personal information about yourself or your family at the dinner table. You don't want to leave too much to talk about you when you leave and your significant other is with his or her family.